No one is checking the size of your engagement ring at the door of the wedding dress boutique. They aren’t going to ask for your wedding venue booking or see pictures of your proposal.
Can you go wedding dress shopping without being engaged?
You can go wedding dress shopping without being engaged. Believe it or not, sometimes wedding dress boutiques sell dresses to people who aren’t getting married.
However, let’s be honest. Most of the time, people who walk into boutiques to try on dresses are about to get married.
Salespeople won’t want to waste a ton of time helping someone who isn’t engaged unless they are, for whatever reason, a serious buyer.
If you’re one of the few people who either know what type of dress they want or want to see what trying on a wedding dress is like, then book an appointment!
Here’s some helpful information on what to expect and how you can avoid any awkward situations about not being engaged.
Trying Without Buying
The entire wedding dress shopping experience is built around getting you and anyone else to make a purchase.
Of course, these companies want you to spend money. And, with wedding dresses, it’s usually a lot.
Wedding dresses can cost anywhere from hundreds to tens of thousands of dollars. Typically, they’re handmade or decked out with crystals, making them one-of-a-kind pieces that will last forever.
When you enter a wedding dress boutique, you get a set time with an associate who caters to your every whim. They’ll help you try on countless dresses and talk to you about different styles.
That said, not everyone buys a wedding dress the first time they go to try some on.
Especially when people are spending that much money, they want to know they’re getting the best deal for the perfect dress. It’s not like they’ll lock you in the store if you say you don’t want anything or need to think about it.
You Are a Future Sale
A good sales associate will know that it is a good thing when you walk into the store, whether you’re engaged or not. Hopefully, giving you a good experience will bring you back to them when it’s finally time to buy.
You’re a good use of their time unless they’re swamped.
If you’re not engaged, however, you should be conscious of how much time you’re using. Here are some ways to make the entire experience go smoothly.
Book an Appointment
Most boutiques will require shoppers to book an appointment to try on dresses before coming into the store. They’ll ask you about your preferred styles, wedding details, and budget.
If you’re not yet engaged, be honest as you fill out the information. Odds are, they’ve dealt with people in similar situations in the past and will welcome you into the store.
Once again, some people like to get a head start on wedding planning. The store will do what they can to guarantee that, when you finally buy, it’s at their store.
Don’t Waste Time
If you’re buying a dress, throw this tip out the window.
However, most people who want to try on wedding dresses before they’re engaged are there to get a feel for different styles.
Suppose that’s you. But don’t spend too much time trying on dresses, especially if you see that the store is busy.
If you’re not buying, be conscious of the associate’s time by not trying on a million different dresses.
Don’t Expect the Red Carpet Treatment
If you’re not buying a wedding dress, or you’re not engaged, and the salespeople know, then you shouldn’t expect the red carpet treatment. You may not get glasses of champagne or access to the nicest dresses.
The associates may limit your time as well. Of course, they’ll be polite about it, but they are there to deliver wedding dresses.
Ignore the Haters
Everyone will have an opinion about going wedding dress shopping without getting engaged.
The problem is that we pay way too much attention to opposing opinions. A single negative comment can outweigh 100 positive words of encouragement.
Just know that if you ask what other people think, you will get some negative feedback. Some people are judgmental and are not shy about letting others know.
And don’t even think about posting the question or polling people on social media. That’s just asking for trouble.
If you’re honest about why you want to try on dresses, leave it to the store to let you know whether they want you to come or not. Some stores will politely decline, and that’s fine! Others will welcome you in with open arms, hoping you’ll buy later.
Many people try on dresses before they’re engaged when they feel things are getting serious with their significant other.
Perhaps they grew up with their moms going to fancy stores to try on dresses in the mirror. They may want to relive that experience with their friends and bask in the excitement of their progressing relationship.
Finding Dresses Without an Appointment
If you look online, you’ll see plenty of comments telling people about ways to lie or “play” to get an appointment.
Yes, you will probably score an appointment if you lie about your wedding date or tell the store that you’re a model looking for a dress for a photo shoot.
What you’re doing, though, is stealing time from another bride who needs to buy a dress. That’s not the way to go, and we strongly discourage it.
You’ll feel better about your experience if you do everything aboveboard.
Ways to Try on Dresses Without an Appointment
There are ways you can avoid wedding salon appointments and still try on dresses. Here’s how.
- Shop Online – OK, we know it’s not the same as trying on a dress, but it’s still shopping for a wedding dress. If you shop online, it helps you narrow in on styles that you love. When you finally go into a salon, you’ll know better what you like.
- Visit Outlets – You don’t have to have the five-star salon experience to try on wedding dresses. Plenty of wedding dress outlets may or may not let you try them on in the store. You can drop in anytime you’d like to check out different dresses.
- Keep It to Yourself – You don’t have to give the people in the salon a confessional to try on wedding dresses. Keep the details of your plans to yourself, and just let them know you’re exploring your options. Again, you may not get the best service, but they’ll still let you look at and try on dresses.
- Just Go for a Look – Shopping for a wedding dress doesn’t require trying them on. You can drop into salons to look at their selection and talk to them about the buying process.
If You’re Buying — Do Whatever You Want
If you want or need to buy a wedding dress, throw all of this out the window and schedule an appointment the way you would if you were getting married next month. A sale is a sale; if you’re buying, you should get the same treatment as any bride-to-be.